As attorneys, we spend years preparing to practice law. We attend three years of law school where we are trained how to think critically, analyze complex issues, and negotiate effectively. After that, we spend weeks—often months—studying for the Bar Exam before we are licensed to practice.

Many attorneys continue their education long after law school by attending seminars, speaking at conferences, and publishing articles to stay current in an ever-changing legal landscape. We are extensively trained and highly educated.

But what does all of that matter if our clients are not cooperative, honest, or willing to trust the process?

“I hired the attorney—why don’t they just do everything for me?”

You are correct that you hired an attorney to handle your case. However, that does not mean your attorney can handle every aspect of the case without your involvement. The attorney–client relationship is a partnership.

Your attorney can only work with the information, documents, and communication you provide. Without your participation, even the most skilled attorney is limited in what they can do on your behalf.

“Do I really have to be honest with my attorney?”

Yes—absolutely.

You need to tell your attorney everything, including the parts you may not be proud of. Attorneys are not here to judge you; we are here to prepare and protect you. Information that is withheld almost always comes to light later—and usually at the worst possible time.

When your attorney knows the good, the bad, and the ugly early on, they can anticipate problems, prepare responses, and avoid being blindsided in court.

Your attorney cannot protect you from information they do not know exists.

“Why won’t my attorney do exactly what I say, when I say it?”

Because what you want and what the law allows are not always the same.

Family law cases are emotional, and understandably so. However, legal strategy must be based on statutes, case law, court rules, and judicial expectations—not emotion alone. Your attorney’s job is to guide you toward outcomes that are legally realistic and in your long-term best interest, even when that advice is difficult to hear.

Additionally, attorneys manage multiple cases and ethical obligations. While we are dedicated advocates, we are also human beings who must balance professional responsibilities with personal lives. Immediate action is not always possible or appropriate.

“What happens if I’m slow to respond or don’t provide documents on time?”

Delays can only harm your case.

Your attorney asks for documents and information because they cannot obtain them without you. If they could, they would not need to ask. Missed deadlines, incomplete disclosures, or unreturned communications prevent your attorney from preparing properly and may negatively impact how the court views your case.

If your attorney cannot reach you, they cannot know what is happening in your life or how you want to proceed. Communication is not optional—it is essential.

The Bottom Line

An attorney can argue the law, prepare filings, negotiate settlements, and advocate fiercely in court—but they cannot do it alone. The most successful cases are built on cooperation, honesty, responsiveness, and trust.

At the end of the day, an attorney is only as good as the client allows them to be.