Protecting your children at all times (and especially during difficult times like divorce) should be your top priority. For that reason, there are two don’ts you need to steer clear of as far as your child’s well-being is concerned during the divorce:
Don’t put the kids in the middle of your divorceIt is not uncommon for some parents to turn to their kids in search of “ammunition” they can use against their spouses during the divorce. Well, this puts the children in the middle and makes them feel they should spy on the other parent. If you have concerns or really want to know something, talk to your spouse directly. Do not drag your kids into adult conversations, more so if they are too young to process what is going on.
Don’t put your spouse down in front of the kidsDisparaging or talking negatively about your spouse in the presence of the kids is never a brilliant idea. Of course, this can be a very difficult rule to observe, especially if you are angry, bitter and spiteful.
Still on matters disparaging your spouse, never pit the kids against the other parent. Typically, kids deserve love and care from both parents. As such, they are not going to benefit when one parent is constantly pitting them against the other parent. This, at the very basic, isparental alienation and it will only harm the kids in the long run.